American writer Caroline Rothstein called refusing to let a man help her with her luggage on a plane a ‘calculated act of resistance’.
Her tweet fetched more than 32,000 replies and was criticised for mentioning the fact the man was white.
She later responded, saying: ‘My Tweet was meant to be tongue and cheek but wow did folks take it to a whole other height, pun intended.’
Nirpal Dhaliwal, 45, journalist, appeared on a debate on ITV’s Good Morning Britain to debate whether feminism is ‘killing off’ chivalry.
He said he never offers his seat to women on the train because they have never done the same for him. In his opinion men are just as knackered after a ‘long day at work’ and pay the same fare as women.
The writer added: ‘If she’s physically able, why should I give up my seat for her? ‘It’s a one way street though. A woman has never given up her seat for me.
‘When I’ve had a football injury and I’ve been limping down the carriage, I’ve never had a woman open a door for me, pull out a chair for me, nothing.’
He did say he would he happy to give up his seat on the train for a woman who was pregnant, disabled or suffering from a health problem.
Mr Dhaliwal, from London, said that men feel ‘confused’ by how chivalry works in the modern world.
He added: ‘Guys are getting their heads bitten off or getting an earful just for helping and that’s confusing for guys. The urge to be nice is there.’
‘There’s so much palaver. I would help but I’d probably ask them to sign a consent form.’
BBC Asian Network presenter and comedian Noreen Khan told the programme she would never expect a man to give up his seat and would happily accept help from one.
She argued feminism and chivalry can ‘co-exist’ without contradicting each other. Ms Khan added: ‘I consider myself a feminist and I would never be offended if a man was chivalrous.
‘If he decides to open the door for me or says would you like help with your luggage, I’d say “yes please” even If I haven’t asked for it.’
She said she thought it was quite rude to say no thank you if a man does offer help.